Are there layers to listening?
Posted by wlebolt
Folks today listen fast. We have to. We have information coming at us from all directions at rapid fire pace. Young people are unfazed by this. They’ve grown up with it and seem to have perfected the technique.
The young woman at the register was completely amazing. I approached her to exchange a pair of shoes. In the next 90 seconds she:
- scanned in my receipt
- checked her computer for stock availability
- found it in the size in another color
- pulled up that color and described it to me
- responded to the caller on her headset
- asked if she’d like them to hold those for her
- wrote up a slip
- responded to the woman bringing 2 large boxes about where to put them
- put the slip with these boxes
Then, she looked back at me.
Nearly, speechless, I asked if she’d hold my shoes while I went to look at what they had available. I had no doubt that my shoes would be waiting when I returned. This woman was astounding.
And I tell her story this way, in bullet points, because I must. It’s how we read and how we hear — these days. Our lives are filled with distraction and diversion, but we manage to take it all in. Just enough of it to get the idea, because that’s all we have time for. Funny, diversion used to be such a good thing. It was something that rescued us from our monotony and lifted us to the sublime, the humorous or at least the entertaining. Now, it’s standard. Comes on the basic model.
What, then, of us “contemplatives?” And I don’t mean monks or hermits or cloistered religious folk, but people who tend to cogitate and reflect by nature. Are we being shallowed, too? Perhaps, we, like the Universe, are slowly moving away from our center. Not exploded by the force of the Big Bang but drawn outward by a magnetic force.
I was struck by this definition of contemplative prayer offered by the Shalem Institute:
“Deep listening in the silence.”
If I am always operating at the surface, what is in the deep?
I drew 3 concentric circles in my journal and stood by to see what emerged. The surface was very easy to populate with words: shallow, listen up, easy to wake, distraction, diverge, snapshot, wander. Surprised myself with: productive and superconcious.
But these words did not emerge alone. They came in 3’s, partnered with under words and yet deeper words. Underneath were: dig, delve, order, explain, reason, data, apply, converge. Surprises: wonder and hypothesis. Perhaps those are borderline to the deeper words like: discover, uncover, naked, appreciate, adept, perspective, see, tiptoe. That was the place of deep listening.
How’d a kinesthetic get there? By one smooth, clear, baptismal stone. It was a gift from the folks at SOULfeast during one of their worship services. I like it because it’s surface feels right to my fingers. Somehow it clarifies my thoughts.
When I was finished writing words, I set it down on a word. I was surprised to see that it acted as a magnifier. The word it magnified was “subconcious.” Near it I had written, “How do you know that?”
Up close. That’s what it said. From a distance, this small stone looked like a drop of water, beaded up from the page.
How can I magnify my listening from a distance? I can’t, but God can. No matter how far I pull away, I am still in connection with the center that holds me.
How do I know that? I have seen it.
Even when I can’t see it, I can feel it.
It spells itself out for me. Imagine that… just for me. Magnificent!
About wleboltWendy is a health and fitness professional and coach who specializes in helping young athletes dig deep to reach high. Her business, Fit2Finish, LLC, serves the Washington DC metropolitan area.
Posted on November 16, 2013, in Body, Cool Science, Deeper Sensation, Mind, writing and tagged Baptism, contemplative prayer, deep listening, distraction, diversion, God, journaling, Magnifying, Shalem Institute, SOULfeast, words. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.